So a new found interest of mine is to browse the website Buzzfeed. I probably am on that site way more than I should be. Recently the site has had quite a few posts regarding interracial relationships. Interracial relationships can be defined in many different ways. While I prefer to use the term intercultural to define my relationship, interracial is just as applicable. One of the posts that caught my eye in particularly was a video outlining what it is like to be in an interracial relationship. The video depicts several different situations with an interracial couple.
I think the video does a good job at showing how normal an interracial relationship is. Couples, such as Abhi and I, go through many of the same ups and downs that any other couple would. However, the video also highlights other aspects of the relationship that are special to interracial relationships, such as having random strangers and friends telling you that you are going to have the cutest mixed babies. Umm, aren’t all babies cute and adorable??? What is going to make my baby any more special than someone else’s baby? And the looks! This was something that both Abhi and I were very self-conscious about when we first started dating. It is not unusual to be stared at and even thrown looks of disgust from others in public. Even though this still happens, it seems to be happening less and less. Perhaps it is that I have just grown accustomed to the looks that I don’t notice them anymore or perhaps it is because the number of interracial and intercultural couples is increasing so it is slowly becoming something others are used to.
Either way, looks or no looks, I love Abhi and Abhi loves me. The color of our skin or the culture from which we hail is simply a part of who we are, but it certainly doesn’t define us. In fact, we consider it our greatest asset. We both have the opportunity to learn a great deal about another culture that we may not have gotten to otherwise; not to mention the exploration of different cuisines on a regular basis!
I’d love for you to check out the video and tell me if you think it’s accurate. Are you in an interracial or intercultural relationship? Have you ever experienced the situations portrayed in the video? How have you dealt with them? What’s your advice to others looking to get into a relationship with someone from a different background?